Friday 17 January 2014

Because Awesomeness Ain’t Easy

Written from my studio in Mumbai on January 17, 2014

So I'm rebranding my blog from "Soulsearching: The Journey Home" to "The Audacity of Awesome(ness)". Kind of like Justin Bieber when he changed his hair cut. 

Still Searching, Still Journeying…

The idea of finding my way home weighed heavily on me when I started this blog. Mistakenly, most readers of my first entry assumed I was seeking a geographical home as I weaved through the story of my life using the places I have lived as a metaphorical backdrop to my spiritual state. I am a little bit more complicated than that. What I seek is that sense of peace and belonging that we all feel when we are in the comfort of our own homes. A home for my restless soul.

I wrote my first blog entry on November 15, 2013. Two months later I am still restless, unsettled and homeless. I have read all the self-help articles on the internet and started several spiritual practices to figure myself out. Something within me still seems off despite my efforts. I feel as though someone took a vacuum cleaner and sucked the essence out of my being. I am perfectly functional on the outside but exist as a vast desert of emptiness on the inside.

If the brilliant minds of our species ever constructed a perfect robotic replica of the real Henry with all his memories and replaced him, I could be that robot. It is frightening to think about feeling this emptiness for the rest of my life. What good is a Pepsi can after its contents are consumed?

So What Does Any of That Have to Do with Rebranding?

My attention is slowly beginning to shift away from my internal struggle and outward towards the awesomeness of life. I used to spend a lot of time thinking about what went missing and how that happened. Maybe I gave up on the search, or I accepted my empty existence, but my notion of soul searching is becoming obsolete. The space created through this change is starting to be filled with thoughts of the really awesome shit I could do with my life, and with it, reasons to not do it.

This awesome new brand is awesomely endorsed by this awesome urban goat...

Being Awesome is Audacious

I am realizing every day how hard it really is to live in integrity with myself. I spend so much time and energy distracting myself from doing the kinds of things that actually matter to me. Even when that inner voice finally makes it through the noise to tell me what I need to do, I will come up with all sorts of reasons to shut it down again. People will judge me for being me. It’s easier to turn off my brain and watch TV. I don’t have enough money to do that. I can’t leave the house because my plants need to be watered. Even this blog is a distraction from the awesome day I am planning tomorrow.

While meditating in a nearby Catholic church on the finiteness of existence, I discovered two building blocks to living an awesome life: conscientiousness and courage. The conscientiousness to listen to my inner voice. The courage to act on what I hear. I just need to listen, act and be awesome.

My best friend Andrew is deciding to leave a good respectable job as a civil engineer to go pick cherries on an orchard in British Columbia. Why? Because he wants to. Awesome. 

Check out Andrew's blog here: http://allineedismy2barefeet.blogspot.ca/


Saturday 4 January 2014

Henry’s (Legendary) Holiday Season in India (The Finale)

Written during New Year’s Day on a train en route back to Mumbai

Varanasi: The City of Stairs. And Laundry

Dominated by the River Ganges, Varanasi is the famous epicentre of Hindu rituals and activities. The river is believed to be the mother of life and is used extensively to cleanse both spiritually and physically. From birth, Varanasi’s people bathe, clean their clothes and brush their teeth with its holy waters. At the end of their lives, are cremated at the riverbanks (or, in some circumstances, tied to stones and cast into the river). Holy men and cows, as avatar of the gods, litter the city scape.

Alluring Varanasi

Despite what it’s famous for, two things impressed me about Varanasi. First, its staircases. Because the water levels of the River Ganges changes drastically between dry and wet season, a lot of freakin’ stairs are needed in this city. Some were magnificently painted with bright colors which provided real unique sightseeing and photo opportunities.

Stairs galore

 Goats on stairs

Dads on stairs

Bored girls on stairs 

 Dawgs on stairs

Holy men on stairs

Secondly, the laundry of Varanasi impressed me. The people of Varanasi must work up quite a stinky sweat making their way up and down the stairs, creating huge demand for river-side laundry services (this is a strictly unconfirmed Henry theory). I have a strange fascination with Indian laundry. It is the most beautiful laundry I have seen in the world.

Bedsheets on stairs

More bedsheets on stairs 

Even more bedsheets on stairs 

Sarees on stairs

Pants, bedsheets, sarees, shirts, underwear and socks on stairs. How I managed to hold in my excitement at this point is beyond me

Henry’s Morning Dip in the Ganges

Since I was young, I always wanted to bathe in the Ganges but upon seeing how disgusting the river was, this bucket-list item nearly got dropped off my list. Notwithstanding the holy cleansing attributes of the water, it was littered with garbage, filled with cremated human ashes from two different cremation ghats, and seeping with sewage water flowing into the river from the city. Oh, and did I forget to mention where the urban cows sometimes poop?

It took inspiration to give me the courage to hop in. As often happens in a man’s life, I met a beautiful Japanese girl who gave me that inspiration. Her name was Kie and she looked like an archetypical high maintenance Asian gal. I couldn't believe she dipped in the Ganges until she showed me pictures on her camera. By logical deduction, if a high maintenance Asian babe could do it, so could a low maintenance Asian dude. Minus a lack of swim trunks, conditions were optimal for a dip.

Initial scepticism. I almost wiped out while making my way in from stepping on slippery green mould growing on the riverbanks

I washed my face and my hair in its holy cleansing waters. It was surprisingly extremely refreshing

Chilling like a boss who just bathed in the Ganges in his underwear

I am Not Afraid of Death, But Deathly Afraid of Not Living

Warning for any sensitive readers: this section of the entry is a bit morbid.

The River Ganges is believed to have an ability to spiritually cleanse the soul before it moves on to the afterlife, making Varanasi a real auspicious place for the dead to be cremated. A local told me that the two most expensive events in an Indian’s life are marriage and death. The wealthy will even fly in the corpses of their loved ones from afar for their funeral ceremony.

This is the Manikarnika Ghat where 500 bodies per day are cremated. The Haris Chandra Ghat with roughly half the cremation capacity is 1km upstream

Out of decency and respect in a time of mourning, photos are not allowed in close proximity to the cremation ghats. I don’t need a 16gb SD card to capture what I saw there. I will never forget the sight of a burning human corpse getting prodded and turned over by a stick. Or the pedicured feet of a woman sticking out of a pile of cremation wood, with the flames yet to reach that part of her body. Or the many people, locals and tourists alike, observing the ghats with a shared fascination of death.  It was mesmerizing, not because of the completely different cultural practices for funerals, but because what I saw was a glaring reminder of my own mortality.

I don’t fear death. We all have to face it. What death really means to me is that I have a finite amount of time on this planet. I tick closer to death every second that passes and one of my greatest fears is that I spend too many of those ticks not living my life to its fullest.

I spent an evening meditating beside the Manikarnika Ghat and contemplating my own mortality. I find it strange that found my own sense of aliveness in proximity to a place of death. I don’t know when or where, but someday, I will be a corpse as well. What I do until then is the question that torments me.

When Tourist-fication of a Place Isn't Tastefully Done

More ads than an online porn site

I swear someone took the Lonely Planet guide book and regurgitated it all over the walls of Varanasi’s old city. Even the main walls of the main concourse are littered with advertisements for guest houses, lassi joints and restaurants. It really bothers me when a place that is so historical and spiritually significant becomes a zoo for Asian guys with big cameras. Desperation for monetization should never take away from what makes a place special to begin with.

I kept seeing a fake sadhu who was a total tool. He clearly made a living off naïve tourists. He made begging gestures upon eye contact and was often spotted at all the main tourist events. He literally got angry at me several times for not giving him money when my camera was pointed at him. I’m not religious by any means but becoming a fake holy man just to make money off tourist photographer wannabes is approaching an unprecedented level of low.

He even had a habit of putting his hand up to block any photo attempts

I really wanted to get a picture of him just to troll him. So I slung my camera off to my side, turned on its good ol’ timed machine gun mode, and snagged this photo while unsuspectingly walking past him. BAM. Take that, asshole.

In contrast, here’s a real holy man who let me take this photo. He is a Ram Babu which means he is so pure he is legally certified to run around naked like a boss. He ran a small shrine on the Ganges and had a no-pressure donation request for visiting his shrine. I can’t describe in words the mystical presence that he had to him. Plus he was smoking up as we chatted so he’s all-around a super cool dude.

Needing a break from the touts and madness of Varanasi, I took a day trip to another place of Buddhist pilgrimage: Sarnath. Behind me is the place where Buddha delivered his first sermon ever.

The Unstoppable Backpacking Machine Takes a Pause

I got real sick during my last day in Varanasi. Total lethargy. A fever to the state of mild hallucination. Upset stomach. Nausea. I’m not sure what did it. It could have been caused by all the street food I’ve been eating to save money because I misplaced my bank card. Or exhaustion. Or my dip in the Ganges. Or the beating sun. Or adjusting to my new vegetarian diet. Or carrying around heavy camera gear all the time. Or maybe I climbed a few too many stairs.

Anyways, I spent 14 hours sleeping through New Years Eve. My own 2014 countdown was done while curled up in the foetal position in bed and missed a great fireworks show in the process. My brain was producing crazy imagery throughout the night so I applied some of my meditation training and accepted nothing as truth but my breathe. It worked. I managed through the night and woke up feeling a sufficient state of health.

For the last 30 hours I have eaten nothing but soups and fruits to avoid risking a relapse into a pathetic state, or even worse, having to use the toilet on the train (yuck).


Hello to you too, 2014.



Friday 3 January 2014

Am I Just Another Bystander?

Written from my studio in Mumbai on January 3, 2014

Something happened yesterday that I can’t get out of my head.

I was walking home from the train station and came across an unconscious man in his twenties on the overpass stairs. He didn’t appear to be a street person. Just a regular guy in a dress shirt. At first, I nearly walked past him despite knowing that maybe he needed help. I just saw everybody else cruising right past him. My brain was justifying that I shouldn’t rock the boat too much in a foreign country and I’d have no idea how to help him anyways. Deep down, I knew it would be wrong to ignore the situation and I consciously turned around.

I tried waking him up but he was completely out cold. I asked a few passing locals about how I could flag an ambulance. They ignored me or avoided getting involved in the situation. A couple people even looked at me like I was diseased and hastened their pace to get away. Language wasn’t the issue. Young people in Mumbai speak English just fine. Some people just don’t give a fuck.

Eventually someone told me “don’t worry about him, we get drunks like him all the time”. I accepted the explanation and moved on, despite hesitations in the back of my mind that maybe he had a stroke. Or an aneurism. Or an epileptic seizure. That man could have died because nobody stopped to help.

Doing Nothing is Always Easier Than Doing Something

This reminded me of a much more extreme incident in China during 2011where a two-year old girl was run over twice by a car and left to die on the side of the road despite over a dozen nearby bystanders. The incident was caught on CCTV and stunned the people of China. Despite the country’s rapid development there were signs that, at its core, its people were rotten and immoral.

Here’s a link to the full story:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2050438/Yue-Yue-brain-dead-run-twice-ignored-18-people.html  

Sure, it’s a whole different story, but the fundamentals are the same. Someone needed help. Nobody gave a shit. Life went on.

Am I Also Just Another Bystander?

I am living with regret right now for not trying to do more. I blindly accepted the explanation that this man was just another drunk. I allowed myself to justify that, even if I did manage to call the Indian equivalent of 911, the operator would ignore my pleas anyway. Everyone else was walking by, why would 911 care? I also told myself that this is India and life here (sadly) just isn’t considered as precious as it is in Canada.

I am questioning whether or not I have the courage to always hold my integrity and play a role in creating the good society that I want to be a part of. My gut told me there was more I could have done but I still walked away from the situation. This weighs heavily on me because I know that I’ll be in a position of influence in my future and I’m not sure whether I can always do the right thing. Will I just become another corporate executive that unfairly relocates tribal villages so I can build my gold mine? Or be a watchdog that excludes that key detail in my report in exchange for a corporate grant to keep my organization afloat?

I am wondering is whether I can actually make a positive difference to this world. I remember giving away some leftovers in Cambodia to a few street kids and watching other kids rush in to fight over the scraps. I felt like I made the situation even worse. Even with good intentions, there are some things I just can’t change.

Let’s be honest, many people either don’t give a shit about others or they don’t have the courage to do what’s right. But I can’t accept that. I really do want to be a stand for a better world, but in cases like this, I struggle with sticking to my true north. I can’t wait until later in my life to live true to my values. I must do it now.

On those stairs on the way home from the train station, I failed myself and even worse, I failed someone that could have really needed help. Part of me just wants to give up my cause and crawl back to some oil company where I can make 6 figures and have my big screen TV again. In the end, as always, I will persevere. For now, all I can hope is that this guy was just another drunk and he's safely back at home now.

If it were easy to do the right thing and make a difference, everybody would be doing it.





Thursday 2 January 2014

Henry’s (Legendary) Holiday Season in India (Part 3)

Started in a smelly hotel room in Allahabad on December 25, 2013

My room’s a little gross but the bed sheets are clean enough. I can’t complain given I’m paying $7 per night for a private room. Anyways, onto the blog…

One of the Holiest Sites in Hinduism

Allahabad served as my layover on the way to Bodhgaya. Its main attraction for visitors is the Kumbh Mela, a massive religious festival that occurs every 12 years. 40 million people attended the Kumbh Mela in 2013. Can you imagine that? That is more than the population of Canada crammed into a few square kilometers.

One of my mentors in Vancouver, MaRi, suggested a documentary on this festival a few months ago and my fascination with India grew as a result. Even though the festival happened at the beginning of the year, I definitely wanted to check out its grounds and feel the holy awesomness of the place.

Side note: My camera just started showing a big “ERR” message and stopped working. I was freaking out. Thankfully it went away on its own. I do have my backup point-and-shoot camera but my Nikon D90 is my baby and I don’t think I can enjoy travelling without its ability to capture what my eyes capture!

Sangam is a particularly auspicious point in Allahabad where two of India’s holiest rivers, the Ganges and the Yamuna, meet one of Hinduism’s mythical rivers, the Saraswati. This holy place was the focus of my visit to Allahabad. Upon arriving, I chartered a boat to the holiest point where the three rivers converged.

It doesn’t look like anything special but apparently this is extremely holy water. I think the couple on the right were totally making out until I showed up. Sorry guys but I gotta get my spirituality on.

Even Religious Rituals in India Are Scams

I took part in some sort of a Hindu ritual at the point of convergence of the three rivers. First, I named three coconuts based on the names of my direct family members. Then I repeated the chants of a priest as he caressed my head with a straw brush. Finally, I cast the coconuts and a glass of coconut milk into the rivers.

As all of this was happening, I was wondering two things:

  1. Whether or not I was actually selling my soul
  2. How much will this end up costing me

I still don’t have an answer to the first question but the second is 2000 rupees (nearly $40). In contrast, I paid 65 rupees for an amazing filling lunch with meat dishes today. The priest claimed 2000 rupees was the cost of the three coconuts, but as a daily coconut consumer with Coconut Man outside Dasra, I knew the cost of each coconut could be no more than 30 rupees. Coconut Man was originally charging me 40 rupees to take advantage of my foreign style, but 2000 rupees is like a whole new level of ridiculous.

For various reasons (e.g. Pickpocketing, negotiating and pretending to be poor, scams like this) I usually keep  a low balance of change in my pockets and my remaining cash in top secret compartments around my body. Well, it paid off. I only had 160 rupees in my pocket, 60 of which had to go to my boat operator. Desperate for my money, the priest forced me to demonstrate the emptiness of all my pockets. Well I’m glad my travel habits got me a 1900 rupee discount on what I now call the “Sangam Scam Ritual.”

My attempt to take a photo of the next Sangam Scam Ritual being performed as we were departing

Random Acts of Kindness Make Travelling (and Life) Worthwhile

Sometimes you just get stuck when travelling. I went into adventure mode today and ended up on the outskirts of a large military base kilometers away from a place I could flag a rickshaw. I approached a motorcyclist parked on the side of the road named Irfan for directions. He’s a local television reporter in Allahabad and a huge fan of Chinese kung-fu movies. You can guess what we talked about as he gave me a free 20 minute lift to where I was staying. He also gave me some great advice on staying safe in India. I offered him a tip or to grab him dinner but he politely refused, said he was real glad to meet and chat with me, and rode off into the sunset. What a cool dude.

Entry continued from a clean, nice-smelling room at the Tibetan Monastery in Bodhgaya, December 26 2013

Exploring the Holiest Site in Buddhism

The next part of my journey took me to Bodhgaya in the state of Bihar. Bodhgaya, the place where Buddha gained enlightenment while meditating under a Bodhi tree, is considered the holiest site in Buddhism. 

A direct descendent of the Bodhi tree planted in the same spot where Budhha gained enlightenment. The original tree was poisoned out of jealousy by Emperor Ashoka's wife because the good Emperor was a devout Buddhist and wasn't giving her enough lovin' . Lesson learned: women do crazy things when their needs aren't met

Given its importance, pretty much every country that practices Buddhism has its own monastery here. And the cool part: guests can stay at most of them for a very reasonable price.


Bodhgaya is one of the very few places where one can visit beautiful Bhutanese, TIbetan, Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Bangladesh and Thai Buddhist temples within a couple hours of strolling


This is the magnificent Mahabodhi Temple. Built in the place of Buddha's enlightenment, it is THE temple of all Buddhist temples

A Spiritual Awakening by Destiny?

I didn’t even know Bodhgaya existed until my to go to Gwalior fell through due to transport availability and only upon more travel research did I discover that this place existed. In a way, Bodhgaya found me.  I shared a rickshaw into town from its train station with a fellow called Brajendra from North Eastern India. Within 5 minutes of our shared ride I could easily sense he was a deeply spiritual person. He discovered Vipasana, a form of long-term silent meditation, 17 years ago and he has been a hardcore meditator ever since. There is a 45 day Vipasana course for advanced meditators, which to my amazement, entails 45 full days of silence and meditation. Not a single word can be uttered during that time. Incredibly, Brajendra has done the 45 day course five times.

He wanted to stay at the Japanese monastery, and with my affinity for Tibetan culture, I opted for the Tibetan one. I wanted to learn more about spirituality so we exchanged numbers upon parting ways. Upon learning that the Tibetan monastery only had double-rooms, I texted Brajendra offering him the extra bed in case he needed it. Well, he happened to be having troubles finding the Japanese monastery, so by fate we ended up sharing once again. We were later joined by new friends: a guy called Luv from Dubai (seriously, that was his name. He’d do well at the clubs in the West) and Andrea from Switzerland. They have both done Vipasana courses and practice meditation twice a day. We enjoyed each other’s company, explored the town together and shared our views on life. I have a feeling that the conversations I had over the past few days will spiritually alter the course of my life.

Left to right: Brajendra, a really suave Chinese man, Andrea and Luv

Given his spiritual depth, I told Brajendra that he is the closest person I have to a guru or sadhu. He said there’s a better term, “Kalyanmitra”, which means a well-intentioned spiritual friend. Well, I am grateful for meeting a Kalyanmitra and hope one day I have the wisdom to be a Kalyanmitra for another person.

Vegetarianism: My Second Attempt

One of the tenets of Buddhism to enlightenment, not to mention a good practice for meditators, is not to harm any living beings. Regardless of religious orientation, I always knew that vegetarianism was part of my own path to enlightenment. My first attempt at vegetarianism was after my South America sabbatical in 2011 where I lasted 8 months without meat. But I just love meat too much. Bacon bits. Home made beef jerky. Beef stew. KFC. Peking duck. Prime rib steak. Chicken pot pie. Thanksgiving turkey. My special five-meat meatballs. Triple layer hamburgers. Fried pork back ribs. Anything off the menu of Hong Kong BBQ Master in Richmond. Yum. I’m salivating right now.

But no more.  I was spiritually inspired by Andrea, Brajendra and Luv.

I’ll blog about this decision in more detail later, but right now, I intend to continue my vegetarianism journey. India is a place with a majority vegetarian population so its a great place to start. I struggled at first with defining vegetarianism due to the infinite points on the spectrum. Some food such as eggs, fish and insects can be debated to be part of a vegetarian’s diet. There’s even a religion known as Jainism where root vegetables aren’t eaten because pulling a potato out of the ground kills the entire plant.

My brain churned at 100mph for days to find a good personal definition of vegetarianism. I'm not sure how I came across this but it makes total sense: “if I am not willing to kill, butcher and cook this living being with my own hands, then I will not eat it either.” This rule of thumb seems to be a good way of aligning my vegetarianism with my own authentic feelings about the harming of living beings. Even if it’s delicious mutton slow cooked over 8 hours with yummy yummy spices…

Monks in rickshaws. Baby monks. Orange monks. So many monks on the dance floor. If all these dudes can go a lifetime without meat, I'm sure this meat-lovin Chinese dude can too